At the age of 46, I became a grandmother. I don’t know how it happened.
I mean, I’m not stupid. I know HOW it happened, I just don’t know WHAT happened. To my life, that is. Where’d it go so fast?
The worst part of the grandmother gig was The Name Change.
See, I like my name: Stephanie. Steph to those who are close. I like my identity: Mom. Mommy, even still on occasion, to both my grown children. I’m a natural at the mom thing. It fits me. But this “G” word thing…ohhhhh, not so much. It SOUNDS old. It FEELS old. And I have to live with this stupid grandmother name for the rest of my natural-born life (which may be spent in the state pen for strangling my son with his own tongue if he refers to me as “MeeMahw” one more time.)
I am so not kidding.
As far as I’m concerned, if you insist on calling me any variation of the “G” word, just go ahead and put me in an Alfred Dunner blouse, pull my hair back in a bun, and plant me in a pine box. That’s all she wrote. It’s over and done. The fat lady has sung.
I needed a cool, or at least creative, name.
Not TOO creative, mind you. I’ve run across my fair share of monikers like Granny Grunt, Big Momma, Gunkie, Cookie, Cherry, Sweetums, Cracker, Chicken Nana and Butter Butt. Seriously?!
So I embarked on a 6-month quest to ascertain an alias. As Thomas Edison might have said, “I did not fail. I just found 10,000 names that wouldn’t work.” At least not for me.
Right off the bat, I eliminated the names already in use in my family: Nana, Granny, Grandmama, MaMa, etc.
I also ruled out Grand-MaMa as I don’t have the appropriate jewels to be a Dowager Countess.
MaMaw, MeMaw and GeeMaw all sound too much like HeeHaw. YeeHaw.
Gams – not exactly well-suited for a gal with tree trunk legs.
I thought there might be potential within the international community:
Ya-Ya (Greek) – but I’m not a Sisterhood, nor do I have any Divine Secrets.
Lola (Philippino) – she was a showgirl, you know, with yellow feathers in her hair and a dress cut down to THERE. But I don’t Merengue or do the ChaCha.
And then there was the Yiddish Bube. Boobie?
Speaking of boobies (Did I REALLY just use the word “boobies” in my blog?), the cowboy thought I should be ChiChi, which is a Spanish euphemism for breasts. Frankly, I always have cleavage issues, even in a turtleneck, so my g-mother name shouldn’t further the focus.
DeeDee can be a grandmother name, but double D’s brought us back to the boobie thing, so no.
I kinda liked the concept of Diva or Goddess, but there’s no way my kids would have EVER let me get away with those. At least not without an ironic tiara.
One of the kids at church always greeted me with “Hello, Gorgeous!” I kinda liked THAT.
And “Hot Granny” was offered as a choice, but who are we kidding here? That is the ultimate oxymoron. If you don’t believe me, google at your own risk.
Frankly, I just like “Stephie“. It’s what my niece and nephew have always called me, but I was told that using my real name would sound disrespectful out of the mouths of babes. Ugh. The quest continued.
As Kacey and I were driving around discussing my dilemma, she said my new name should be cute and cool, but be something that’s NOT my real name.
After analyzing all the data, I decided on the perfect grandmother name. It’s cute and cool and NOT my real name…